Make choices to feel good about life

Source: Eugene Loh - A Slice of Life

Eugene Loh shared how to feel good about your life.
1) Never stop questioning.
2) Don't give up on life.  Be interested and curious about yourself and about others.  Don't assume that's "just the way it is".  Look for the choices behind your results.
3) Accept your weakness.  Don't deceive yourself by thinking you're the only one with difficulties in their life.
4) Don't stop learning.  The brain is a muscle just like any other, and it will stagnate if you let it.  Make it your rule to learn something new everyday.  Then use what you learn to make your life better.
5) Don't lie to yourself.  Telling lies to yourself is the most harmful form of disrespect.
6) Don't live in the past.  Let go of things that are draining you.  There's nothing in the past that you can change or correct - that can only be done in the present.  Use Today.  Today, change what you need to change, and move on to feeling good about your life.
7) Swim with the current.  Don't complain what you cannot control.  Concentrate on what you can control.

But how do you control what you want to control?  How do you make choices?  From his article "Choose what you want in life",  he listed that one made choices based on
- "shoulds": doing what you believe you should do?
- Pleasing others and doing what others want or expect you to do
- Fear thus you choose the safest or most common route
- Habit and reaction where you don't even think about what you are doing.  You just do it naturally (not sure if it also means robotically).

Empowerment arises from the three Cs: choice, courage and change.  They are yours to claim.. You have the opportunity to create a future that's very different from your past.  And not choosing is also considered a choice.