What is Feminism?

When did this term appear? How did it get created? Did a male or a female define it?

As quoted by my friend, “They discover this phenomenon while we created it”
You can guess that my friend is a female ;-)

Lately I have been discussing with a friend about feminism. He feels that FEMINIST is the obstacle to FAMILY MAKING. In his opinion (and in my words because I can’t remember his exact words), feminist only concentrates on oneself, to make one’s life better. Thus through feminism, a woman learns how to be self-sufficient and not relied on the men for everything. Through feminism, a woman knows a job is important.

And due to feminism, it was said that women starts concentrating only in building their career. They put off marriages and having children as they are unable to juggle between career and family.

But I thought that females best in multi-tasking? Then why is it so hard to juggle between career and family? Why can there never be a balance?

In addition, is it really right to say that feminism is an obstacle for family making? Feminism only teaches a lady to be less reliant on gentleman. I don’t think it teaches a female to regard a male as a useless bum right? Just as I believed that Feminism only teaches a lady to get a job. It doesn’t tell you to develop a career right?

I believe there is feminism in every woman, be it in olden times or present time. Even the most submissive female will have a time where she wants to fight back. Because human can only tolerate a certain limit. To me, feminism is a theory to make females stronger than before.

If a female feels that family is important, when all around her peers are developing their career, then being a feminist at heart, she will still stays firm in her ideals and not go with the flow.

If a female feels that the guy she is dating doesn’t like children, and will not give her happiness. Then she should have the strength to walk out of this relationship and find another guy who wants the same things she wants.

And if a female feels that career is a better option to develop because she cannot be a good mother, she should go all out to develop her career. Because there is no point having a lot of children when there is no role model i.e. the mother and the father for the children to emulate.

Feminism is to describe the strength a woman has. That is my FIRM opinion.